Hey, I'm Talking To You!

Okay, i’ll admit it, i’m guilty of this. One of the most common causes of frustration and friction in relationships is that we don't really listen to each other. Too often we talk at each other rather than with each other.    :(

Fortunately, listening is a skill that can be developed. 
So there is hope, even for moi. :)



The benefits of learning how to listen are enormous: fewer mistakes, better negotiating, greater wisdom, more friends, less arguments, and much more.

Three things hinder my hearing:

Presumption: when I think we already know it all.

Impatience: when I interrupt and jump to conclusions.

Pride: when I’m defensive and unteachable. You can learn from anyone if you know the right questions to ask.

Three hearing aids:

* Listen with my eyes. Probably 80% of communication is non-verbal. Facial expressions and body language usually tell the real story. Look at people when you listen to them!

* Listen with my heart. Be sympathetic. Tune in to the emotions behind the words.

* Make time to listen to the people around me. In the business world, Tom Peters calls this "Managing By Walking Around," or MBWA.

Imagine how your relationships could be transformed if you focused on carefully listening to those around you.

"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (James 1:19 NIV).