| Stress | Burnout |
Characterized by over engagement | Characterized by disengagement |
Emotions are over reactive | Emotions are blunted |
Produces urgency and hyperactivity | Produces helplessness and hopelessness |
Loss of energy | Loss of motivation, ideals, and hope |
Leads to anxiety disorders | Leads to detachment and depression |
Primary damage is physical | Primary damage is emotional |
Here are somethings i am trying to force myself to do in order to get better.
1. Refocusing on Relationships. This is difficult for me because I'm not normally an outgoing guy. I'm trying to start with my spiritual disciplines with God and my relationships with my wife and son and than others who i have been close to in the past.
2. Connecting with Communication. Again, a challenge for me when I'm in this state but i know for a fact that healthy communication with people who will listen, understand, and not judge is a good thing. I've been told that burnout involves feelings that fester and grow, so i need to be sure to let my emotions out in healthy, productive ways.
3. Exercise and Rest. If you don't have a job that requires a lot of physical exertion you probably need to get into a routine of regular exercise. The other side of the coin is we all need to get proper rest which means 8 hours of sleep.
4. Staying Connected with the Cause. For me this means i am still involved in ministry but scaled back some. I am still meeting with the leadership team at my church because that's what still energizes me. Connect with a cause or a community group that is personally meaningful to you.
I posted this for a couple of reasons, 1) It will help me stay accountable and, 2) Perhaps it will help you recognize some warning signs of burnout for yourself.
Do you have anything to add?
3 comments:
I'm proud of you for "coming out" about being burned out. The first step to getting healthy is to acknowledge the problem. Can't fight what you don't think is there. I'm very thankful for you. You're a wonderful husband and father. Graydon and I love you so much!!!! We're here for you, so be sure to talk to us. We love it!
I would add two things.
1. eat right, ie lots of fresh fruits & veggies, whole grains, and cut back on sugar
2. have sex with your beautiful wife!
I am dealing with some similar issues myself. So I feel for your pain. Once you know there is a problem there is just finding the way to deal with it. Dealing with several bouts with depression over my life I don't feel like slipping into it again. Take care of yourself and be sure to get what is bothering you off your chest with those who care about you.
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